Is it OK to fantasize about a celebrity when you're married?

My husband is hot, period. But I can't help admiring Chris Brown, and I'm not just talking about his talents but his looks as well. Eversince he became an international phenomenon with his song "Kiss Kiss", I have always thought he's sexy. Then he came up with more songs that I can't stop listening to, like "With You", and I feel like a crushing highschool girl again. I saw an episode of the Tyra Banks show where CB hugged a girl who was a die-hard fan of him and didn't let go for a few minutes. This may sound weird but boy, was I jealous! I wish I was that girl :P

My husband knows this of course. He  knows how much I like Chris Brown, he knows that I always watch CB's videos on Youtube, and he hears me squeal "OMGGGG!!!" as Chris takes his shirt off in his concert videos, and all of this if completely fine with him...or at least that's what I think. I mean he's never shown any sign of jealousy whatsoever. He even downloads CB songs for me on my iPod. Maybe because he secretly fantasizes the Victoria Secret models too (ok I really don't have enough proof for that haha). Actually, everytime those teasing bikini-clad women appear on TV, I just kinda joke about how he can't take his eyes off the TV and we both laugh about it. Sometimes we even argue about who's the sexiest model of VS. We don't make this "celeb crushing" an issue maybe because we know it's too small a thing to be concerned about. I mean, it's not like I'm gonna do everything just to be with Chris Brown, and even if I do it's simply not gonna happen, and not that I'm wishing. I'm very faithful to my spouse, that's all I can say, and I know that he knows that.

I don't know if this is an issue to other couples out there. I know It makes some women upset when their men look at sexy girls, celebrities or not. I admit that I don't like it when my man glances at women in their bikinis on the beach, but I don't care about him staring at VS models, like I said. I wonder if there are also other married girls out there who, like me, get that "highschool feeling" when the see their celebrity crush on TV and what their guys think about it.

I don't think you can call the way I admire Chris Brown as fantasizing. I think he's hot and that stops there. But is fantasizing about a celebrity that you haven't even met and don't know as a person a form of adultery or unfaithfulness?

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Do Men Really Hate Taking Pictures?

Most, if not all, girls love to have portraits of them taken and go crazy with the camera. But it seems to me like guys in general don't care about it at all. They only pose for the camera when needed like at weddings, proms, or other memorable events, or if they happen to meet Shaq in person and want to brag a photo of them with him on Facebook. They (except the photographers) even hate clicking the shutter button of the camera to take a picture of someone or some random stuff... unlike the women, who, photographers or not, like to carry cameras around them whether it's a film, disposable, point-and-shoot type, or bulky DSLR camera. They like to capture just anything. No wonder it's the women who scrapbook and not the men :P

I always expect my husband to say either "Ugghhh" or "No" whenever I ask him to take a picture of me especially if it's just some random picture like me sipping a Starbucks drink or me playing with our bengal cat. And it's not just my husband. My dad, my ex's, my male friends, and male classmates and boardmates in college...they would have almost exactly the same reaction whenever I say "Let's take pictures". I've never heard of any guy who responded something like "Oh yeah, let's take some! There's a nice view over there!"

Is it a nature of men to dislike the camera? I mean, it's not a girly hobby, is it?

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